Kathi Miller MA, LPC

I’ve always had a deep desire to see the people around me thrive. As the tenth of eleven children, I was the cheerleader in my family—constantly hoping for good things for those I loved. But in the face of real hardship, I often felt helpless watching the people I cared for suffer. In our large family, needs were high and resources were low. I learned early to fend for myself, to not ask for help, and to figure things out on my own.

Striving and perfectionism became my way of feeling safe, often at the cost of connection. Like many of my clients, I’ve also walked through personal trauma and relational challenges—experiences that left me feeling alone, uncertain of my worth, and unsure of how to reach for others. Over time, I’ve learned that we all need safe, supportive relationships to truly grow and become who we are. My journey toward healing and connection fuels my passion for counseling. I counsel because I believe healing happens in relationships, and we all deserve to know we are not alone.

I work with individuals, couples, and families to help them move from disconnection to belonging. My approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), informed by attachment science, and shaped by years of experience in both professional and Christian ministry settings. I specialize in helping people understand the survival responses they’ve developed—how they reach for others, or withdraw, in times of need—and how these patterns can keep them stuck in isolation.

Better communication isn’t always the answer. When relationships are in distress, what we truly need is a new emotional experience—a felt sense that says:

“I see you. I understand you. I’m here. You’re not alone.”

My goal is to create a safe space where you can take new relational risks, share vulnerably, and experience these healing moments. I’m honored to walk alongside my clients as they build lifelong skills of loving connection.

Education & Experience

• B.S. in Accounting – Southern Illinois University
• M.A. in Counseling – Covenant Seminary
• Board Certified Licensed Professional Counselor
• Certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Individuals and Couples (EFIT & EFCT)
• Board Member, St. Louis Emotionally Focused Therapy Community
• Member, International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)